There isn’t enough time to wait

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Social media has its good and bad points depending on how it is used. Sometimes it brings people together but it also gives of a sense of timelessness.

I have to say that I “hangout” on Facebook and chat with friends and family probably more than I should. I do give it credit for allowing me to keep in touch with people I may not have the ability to see due to distance or circumstances of work and family obligations. People I may not have been friends with in my youth have become more a part of my life now that we have aged and gotten away from the high school mentally of who is popular and who is not part of the in crowd (I was never in the popular group).

However, I think it gives us a feeling of immortality in that there will always be another time to catch up in person. The good intentions are there but somehow life gets in the way and “get togethers” are never made. The time slips by and next thing you know there is no more time left.

I lost a cousin recently. We said at least a half dozen times that we should get together and have a mini reunion but somehow family and work obligations never seemed to work out to do so. And now I can’t. And the regret is a reality.

So how do we as a society get back into a more community based versus virtual based way of communicating?

First of all, don’t give up your social media base. It is a start to keeping in touch with family and friends. It is much better than no involvement at all. I like the quote from this article:

“They’re finding that people communicate more often with family and friends because of technology, but the quality of that communication may be weaker. Kids who spend more time engaging with a screen than with other kids or adults can struggle to understand emotion, create strong relationships or become more dependent on others.”

I have come to enjoy using Skype while my older daughter is in France and now with my younger daughter up at college four hours away. I can try to read body language a bit more than when we text or “Whatapp” where I only have words without inflection or facial feedback. I feel we are communicating better with the visual than by words alone.

“Technology should make communication easier when it’s appropriate,” Roberts said. “But when we have access (to more direct forms of communication), we don’t use it. Part of it is just that it’s human nature to avoid. It’s easier.” (from the same article)


Second– take a chance
and start with one or two friends or family members that you would like a closer relationship with and set up either a recurring breakfast or lunch or even an activity like a walk to develop and build a stronger base to share more deeply.  Granted its much harder to take the time to meet with someone and actually engage in conversations but the benefits out weigh the effort. 

This article  on Social Work Today has many great points including this one:

“According to Paul Booth, PhD, an assistant professor of media and cinema studies in the College of Communication at DePaul University in Chicago, social media certainly affects how we engage with one another across all venues and ages. “There has been a shift in the way we communicate; rather than face-to-face interaction, we’re tending to prefer mediated communication,” he says. “We’d rather e-mail than meet; we’d rather text than talk on the phone.”

According to Booth, studies have shown that people actually are becoming more social and more interactive with others, but the style of that communication has changed so that we’re not meeting face-to-face as often as we used to.

That said, our interactions on social media tend to be weak ties—that is, we don’t feel as personally connected to the people at the other end of our communication as we do when we’re face-to-face. “So while we’re communicating more, we may not necessarily be building relationships as strongly,” Booth says.”

One simple benefit? We actually develop deeper, trusting relationships where we feel more able to share concerns, feelings and disappointments than when we only communicate online. Praise and compliments take on more meaning when given face to face rather than a “like or comment”. This article from Time shares:

“In an age of perpetual digital connectedness, why do people seem so disconnected? In a Duke University study, researchers found that from 1985 to 2004, the percentage of people who said there was no one with whom they discussed important matters tripled, to 25%; the same study found that overall, Americans had one-third fewer friends and confidants than they did two decades ago.”

Another huge benefit? We actually feel better when we meet and greet each other with a hug or similar touch. Touching is one the the most basic human needs but most people don’t get enough human interaction to survive let alone grown and thrive. I’ve been getting together with several ladies on a fairly regular basis and we always share a hug when we leave. It makes a huge difference in our bonding and ability to trust each other with confidences.  This article on World of Psychology touches on that issue:

“Hugging induces oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” that’s renowned for reducing stress, lowering cortisol levels and increasing a sense of trust and security. According to research conducted at the University of North Carolina, women who receive more hugs from their partners have lower heart rates and blood pressure and higher levels of oxytocin.

So what if someone does not want to be face to face? It is hard when people reject your attempts to be more than a casual relationship. Maybe they are not ready or able to participate in “real time” interaction.  I would say keep trying if it means more to you, otherwise accept them as they are and choose other people to have deeper friendships. Some people just need more space than others and can only handle small amounts of togetherness before it becomes stressful.

Feedback–I would love to hear your thoughts on this conversation going on in my head!!

 

All the best– Janice

 

Links:

Read more at

http://national.deseretnews.com/article/2235/Face-time-vs-screen-time-The-technological-impact-on-communication.html#ZZU1EKgkWEtP0z3T.99

http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/051313p10.shtml

http://content.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1998396,00.html

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-5756/10-Reasons-Why-We-Need-at-Least-8-Hugs-a-Day.html

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/03/10/the-surprising-psychological-value-of-human-touch/

I’ll be be right back….

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Revamping how the blog is being done…..

Look for:

Weekly recipes or healthy hacks.

Wordless Wednesday with images only.

Reflections on my job as a RN (OB dept) with real life parenting clues.

Let me know if there are things you would like to see or hear about!

 

Best wishes for a great weekend!

Janice

PS–I hope to have everything in place next week.

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Why I am taking a break from my Fitbit

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When I first got my Fitbit Flex I loved it. I loved the motivation I got and couldn’t wait form my “buzz” of hitting my goal. (Actually the first time it happened I almost fell off the treadmill because it startled me so much! ) I wore it like a piece of my fitness gear. I wore it 24/7. Everyday, for over a year. I even got more bands so it could go with more outfits.20150312_180145

But I need to take a break from it. It has lost its purpose of motivating me. I think because I wore it all the time that it became more like just something I wore as an accessory like a bracelet or necklace. It has no meaning right now since the buzz is no longer new and I move a lot more than I used to.

I think that like most things in life you need to take a break from something to really appreciate it. This could be eliminating something from your eating plan or not being able to exercise outside due to the weather. I know I appreciate the days it is warmer and less windy and I just bask in the sun and being able to exercise and be active outside without all the layers.quote-improvise-adapt-overcome-from-cafepress

Will I go back to wearing the Fitbit? That is a good question. It feels odd being ‘naked’ after wearing it constantly. I think I will have to find something else as a physical mantra;maybe a bracelet with encouraging words. Reminders are good things but changing them to meet our growth as people may be what is needed.

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Another week, another challenge!

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This past week just flew by and I really found myself having more fun looking for ways to be healthy. Working, however put another spin to my getting it actually done. Normally I work night shifts but this week I had some education and Nursing Council  during the day. Not big challenges to deal with but it still required some planning.

Planning is a huge factor in living a healthy life for me. If I don’t plan ahead at least a couple days for meals I find myself falling into the “easy but not great” rut of grabbing a protein bar. If I don’t plan out exercise I definitely find other things to do and I fall into the trap of couch sitting with my husband in the evening.

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Courtesy of #Healthy Monday

 

20140601_144230 20140601_144243How do you keep on track? Do you use a planner, a training plan, an online site? I’m more of a paper and pencil girl for the actual planning but I am liking the online site of Sparkpeople for tracking the actual food I eat and Map My Run for my activity.

 

 

These are what my typical planners look like. Its taken a while and many adaptations to fit it into something resembling my life but it makes it easier to look back and see where things went wrong when they invariably do.

So aside from the challenge of working day shifts I also got a challenge of an extremely busy night at work. I work in a fairly busy “OB” unit and you just never know what might happen on any given shift. Unfortunately being busy and finding time to eat don’t always go smoothly. And then you find yourself eating whatever is quick in the break room in lieu of actually sitting to eat your meal. I love that patients give us homemade goodies and generally I can resist but someone made us a basket that included Irish soda bread. Bread, especially homemade, is my weak link. And I had not one but 2 slices of the soda bread. With butter.

Keeping in mind the saying about getting back on the horse I did a major food prep on Sunday. I prepped veggies for salads, made jars of Overnight Oatmeal and baked my eggs (hard “boiled) and defrosted shredded chicken. This made working Sunday and Monday so much easier both at work and eating between shifts. I also tried to keep in mind my findings from last week that needed improvement. My calories are a much better range and the carb/protein/fat balance is becoming more balanced.

The thing that really was a high point was being able to use last week’s reward of the Aasics– I ran twice this week and just was so very happy and energized afterward. I also started doing my floor core work and I can say I definitely felt muscles that had been on hiatus since December. It was such a good feeling though; having sore muscles showed I am improving.

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While I love coffee I did find myself reaching for water first when I felt tired which is a great thing for me. I put wedges of lemon in the water which made it go down much easier when I was not totally thirsty. I bought oranges, lemons and limes to experiment with this week.

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Fruit is great for adding flavor to plain water!

So overall a great week. Although the getting healthier was my main goal I also found more room in my clothing and I am down 2.4 lbs this week. Now that I have started running and adding strength training I hope that will continue as well!

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Have a great and healthy week! Let me know how YOU are doing!

Best wishes–Janice

My thanks to #HealthyMonday for giving me permission to use their image!! The other images (aside from my own) were found on Google images– my thanks to their creators!

 

First Run–So far, still good!

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tryI have officially done my first run for the year…finally!

I struggled with minor injuries and aches since mid Fall and just couldn’t get myself back into running because of the fear of pain. I’m not a tough runner; pain to me is my bodies warning system that something is not right. I can tough it out for discomfort but pain, that is another story. Aside from strains and knee discomfort I am pretty sure I had a stress fracture in my mid-foot at some point and this is what concerned me.

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I’m not sure what prompted me to choose today to run but I just felt the need. To be honest I did have to talk myself into it with the promise that I could stop if need be. Part of the problem is my basement is cold–like really cold around 50-55 degrees. I knew enough to use my inhaler before going down. I developed  exercise induced asthma last year after running outside in 35-40 degree temps. Now I know enough to pre-treat if I am exercising in the cold. If I am actually exercising outside a neck gaiter has also proven helpful. I should have worn some gloves (that is how cold it was!) but I started to warm up at 14 minutes and sweat at 16…and that is when the real motivation kicked in!fit24

 

 

 

Anyway– today’s run was a surprise considering I had not run since probably November. Treadmills don’t bother me since I see them as a benefit not a deficit. After a 5 minute warm up of walking I aimed for 4:1 intervals of run/walk. I was not sure was kind of endurance I had left so I was going for whatever felt okay. I selected Taylor Swift’s 1989 for motivation and sure enough I got to smiling and singing along (kinda) and next thing my 30 minutes were up.  Music is my motivator–if I get the right song I can tough it out pretty well.

 

Oh, I also got to try out my new reward of the pair of Aasics shoes–I love them! I almost wonder if they are what kept the foot pain away! They are so comfortable and have great arch support!

AasicsThe best part is that over 5 hours later I am still comfortable and pain free. I think I am ready to start planning my runs again on a regular basis.  Hopefully soon NY will get some nice warm weather and I can take it outside but until then its me and the treadmill.

 

How have you progressed back into being active after injuries?

Best wishes for a great weekend–Janice

 

The images with the exception of my own were found on Google images–my thanks to their creators!

Health(ier) Living– the Week in Review

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actSo the first week has been a great learning opportunity for getting back on track. If you didn’t see the last post I started using Sparkpeople.com again to keep track of food and fitness. I’ve used it before so I had a decent base of “favorites” to make logging easier but it really is very easy to use if you are just starting as well. I really just tried to be more observant and not really go crazy changing anything drastically to to see where my habits need changing.

So what did I learn this week?

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I don’t drink enough water. I drink lots of coffee and tea but not enough plain water. Some of it may be the cold weather, some may be just poor habits. Or I just really like coffee. Once I started drinking more water I noticed that I had more energy  and I could actually feel that I was thirsty.

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Goal for improvement: Drink a minimum of 2 sport bottles of water or 48 oz of water in my refillable cup. Limit coffee to 2 mugs a day. Drink more unsweetened brewed ice tea if needed. Add lemon or some fruit to flavor as needed.

I don’t eat enough calories. When I pay attention to what I eat and focus on fruit and veggies I tend not to have enough calories, especially those from protein.  I was really surprised at this one. I thought for sure I would be much higher in calories but unless I ate more carbs in forms of bread my calories were down.

Goal for improvement: Add in a little more calories to breakfast and lunch in terms of whole grains like oatmeal or whole wheat bread with Peanut butter.

I don’t eat enough protein consistently.While I am not a vegetarian I tend to be a “Flexitarian” where I don’t eat much meat except for chicken.  My husband and I decided on having a burger on Tuesday– both of us felt so sluggish afterward that we decided not to exercise that night. We definitely digest chicken a lot easier it seems.Cajun Shrimp

Goal for improvement: I will have to make an effort to  add in more protein like seafood, nut butters, eggs, Greek yogurt and beans.

I actually love vegetables more than fruit.  I made a bunch of salad at one time this week (new habit) and really enjoyed having a salad ready to go. I prepped a bunch of carrots, celery and cukes then added them to a prepped romaine/spinach/ iceberg mix into separate “grab and go” containers. All I needed was some dressing, protein and any other veggies I wanted and I was ready to eat.

No real improvement needed except to add some fruit daily and expand the variety of the veggies I do eat.

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I do like to exercise–but I tend to delay until I have someone to do it with. I will exercise with anyone; walk, run, hike, bike. I love to exercise with someone else but need motivation to actually use the treadmill or bike by myself. I never had an issue doing exercise solo until this past year or so. I started hiking with a small group of friends and ran with a couple of ladies. Now solo exercise feels almost like a punishment, not a joy.

Goal for improvement: Make plans to meet up with people for exercise despite the weather. I will also try out exercising to videos to see if that helps to change the motivation.walk1

 

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So overall a really good week . I learned a lot about my habits and what I need to do to get healthier. I definitely earned this week’s reward and hope they will help motivate me back into running.

 

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If you have made changes toward eating healthier what are you doing? Do you have a reward system in place or how do you keep yourself motivated?

Take all the steps you need to get where you want to go...including changing the plan as needed.

Take all the steps you need to get where you want to go…including changing the plan as needed.

Committing to be Fit–Better later than not at all

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So I kinda missed the New Year’s resolution thing to get in shape. Actually it was on purpose and I am not sorry I waited.

Any Monday will do!

Any Monday will do!

It wasn’t that I didn’t want to. It wasn’t that I thought I was in great shape. The reason I delayed is because I knew I would fail.  I was not ready to commit to it. My older daughter was heading to France and my younger daughter back to college within a week of each other. I knew with those demands and deadlines in place I wouldn’t be able to keep up with eating well and exercise. So I chose to wait.

You know when you are ready...and when you are not!

You know when you are ready…and when you are not!

I gave myself a date to prepare mentally so I could go at this with a committed heart and mind. Also so my husband was aware of potential changes in eating and activity. It is so important if you can get your family on board with your plan, even if they choose not to participate.

My deadline to start was  Monday February 23. I got my plan in place with the first week just getting back in the routine of planning to be active and more conscious of my eating. This way I can see where my short comings are and work on improving specific things next week.

Take all the steps you need to get where you want to go...including changing the plan as needed.

Take all the steps you need to get where you want to go…including changing the plan as needed.

Food Journaling is a great thing to do when you are looking for patterns. From past experience I knew Sparkpeople was what I needed. It has all kinds of tracking options from food and fitness to dietary needs. And its FREE! I know other places like Weight Watchers have online services but you are paying for something you might not use. Maybe its just me but I never enjoyed sitting in a meeting hearing things I already knew just to make use of the weekly fee.

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I use a general planner for the week so I can jot down work and meal plans; a work sheet of sorts. Sometimes what happens looks nothing like I plan but at least I made a plan to be prepared.

Something you also can do to keep you motivated is buy your self a reward or two and earn it by keeping on track. I was able get all my rewards on sale at TJMaxx (my favorite place for fitness clothing) and Kohls (sale + 20% off). I will get one item for each week I stay committed, not whether I lose weight.

Planning your rewards keeps you motivated!

Planning your rewards keeps you motivated!

Weight loss- or lack there of- does not equal committing to a goal. You can bust your butt and not lose weight. A better way to measure progress is by how your clothes fit. Muscle takes up less space than fat does but both weigh the same. Measure your body prior to starting and then every week or so.

Need more motivation and accountability? Find a fitness buddy or someone willing to remind you (with your permission) that you are working toward a goal of being healthy. Gentle reminders and encouragement, not criticism are perfect for keeping each other going.

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Okay– so check back next week to see how it went. Share with me your insights, suggestions and comments.

The images here, except my own, were found on Google images. My thanks to their creators! (Please claim them if they are yours!)

Best wishes for a great week!

Janice

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